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Patience in Marriage for More Peace

Let Patience Bring Peace to Your Marriage

Your marriage is beautifully unique. You possess some attributes that are not found in your spouse. Likewise, your spouse possesses attributes that aren’t shared by you.

These unique attributes can be positive or negative. When two people of different backgrounds come together in marriage, they must be prepared to deal with each other’s differences.

Patience is the key to resolving these differences. With patience, you will finally experience peace in your marriage.

What is Patience?

Patience is your ability to tolerate or accept a situation over a short or long period of time without becoming annoyed or irritated.

For you to be a patient person, you must begin with love. “Love is patient, love is kind.” 1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is the main characteristic that allows us to accept each other regardless of our differences.

A loving person will find patience to be easier. For example, patience is knowing your spouse is not accustomed to washing the dishes, but you continue to wash them while you patiently encourage them to help. Another example of patience is addressing your spouse’s serious anger problem not by leaving your home, but by seeking wise Christian counseling.

Patience as a Necessity for Peace in your Marriage

Patience can be developed through practice, maturity and understanding. Most of us are not born with patient temperaments. Generally, patience comes through practice. You must endure a testing process before you reach patience.

Both husband and wife must develop patience to resolve marital problems in a peaceful manner. Patience will help you avoid serious arguments that might lead to separation.

To demonstrate patience in your marriage is to show your spouse you are willing to be faithful, regardless of how long the growth process may take.

Patience with your spouse requires a willingness to compromise. Where there is no compromise, there is no peace. It’s important to develop patience in your heart so you can experience peace in your marriage.

Patience is love, understanding and care. When your spouse feels loved, understood, and cared for, they will be more loving, understanding, and caring of you. You will both be more patient with one another, and experience greater peace due to patience.

Key Biblical Counsel & Warfare Strategies for Your Victory

1. Allow your spouse to correct his or her own mistakes. We have a natural inclination to respond to errors quickly, even if it requires us to act on behalf of the person at fault. Wives especially tend to immediately react by fixing the problem themselves. But this is not necessarily a healthy approach. It’s better to be patient with your spouse while they learn the consequences for their actions. Don’t be so quick to pick up after your spouse—let them learn to take responsibility.

2. Try to be understanding. Pay attention to both verbal and non-verbal cues with patience. For example, if a wife continually makes her husband late because she spends too much time trying on different outfits, he can practice understanding instead of impatience. Maybe she has some body image issues that need his love and support. This can be learned with understanding.

3. Pray for patience. Through prayer, you can ask the Lord to teach you to be patient and how to bring peace to your marriage.

4. Remember your Helper, the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit helps us to do the things God desires us to do but that we cannot do ourselves. Patience is a fruit of the spirit according to Galatians 5:22-23.

5. If marriage issues continue to come up with no resolution and no peace, consider seeking godly counsel. That’s where Battle For Your Life can help.

Destroying the Spirit of Anger in Your Marriage

Does your spouse make a big deal out of simple mistakes, jokes and/or comments? If your answer is yes, it could mean he or she is still wrestling with the spirit of anger.

One of the top reasons marriages fall apart today is unresolved anger. It is one thing for a husband to have trust related issues with his wife. It is another thing for him to allow trust issues affect him so much that he makes a tight fist as a threat when they argue. Studies have shown that some individuals do carry negative emotions from the past into their marriages. They are already on their guard; the slightest thing can trigger their anger. Read more

Defeating Jealousy in Your Marriage

The word ‘jealous’ is used several times in the Bible, especially in the Old Testament. You may be surprised to learn that the one who is described as jealous most often is God himself. We serve a jealous God. His jealousy for us comes from a place of love.

But is this kind of jealousy the same kind of jealousy that manifests in our marriages today? Can you love your spouse and be jealous at the same time? How do you get over the feeling of jealousy? All of these questions will be addressed today. Read more

Overcoming the Spirit of Jealousy

Jealousy is one of the main reasons marriages, friendships, ministries and congregations are falling apart. Just about anything can move one to jealousy. Sometimes jealousy moves one to the extent where a person becomes physically hurt or even killed. At the root of the problem of jealousy is a feeling of being threatened by someone else.  Many Bible stories bring out the theme of jealousy. In this post, we will mention Bible stories to compare the different circumstances in which jealousy manifests. Read more

Defeat Anger With God’s Word

Christians often use this proverb to defuse conflict:

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1 NIV

Do you recognize this proverb suggests our choice of words is not the only thing that can stir up anger? Your tone can also stir up anger. Anger is triggered in all kinds of ways. If you feel violated, offended, frustrated, threatened or rejected, you will probably feel anger too. Read more

A Prophetic Word on Relationships

In my daily life, I have been continually praying. I also provide counsel to individuals and married couples. Often I reflect on the condition of my own personal relationships. I also dissect the need for everyone to be taught how to relate practically. We all need to learn how to relate righteously and biblically. Read more

The Power of a Positive Attitude

There are a few simple, yet potent statements of fact which come to mind on the topic of “attitude”:

Attitude is an indicative vibe which most often bears witness as to the heart-composition of a person, whether a person is cognizant of it or not.

Others often utilize a person’s attitude as a measuring instrument for the true or camouflaged personality, ability, or character a person manifests. Read more

Combat Depression - Battle For Your Life

How to Combat Depression

More than 14 million American adults are affected by depression each year. Common symptoms of depression can include the following:

  • Fatigue
  • Restlessness
  • Insomnia
  • Indecisiveness
  • Drastic weight loss or weight gain
  • Diminished interest in pleasurable activities
  • Feelings of low self-worth
  • Recurring suicidal thoughts

Anti-depressant medications and traditional mental health therapy are sometimes used to treat depression. While these treatments may be useful for a short period of time, long-term relief can be achieved through the use of effective spiritual warfare strategies with the support of a spirit-led Christian counselor. Read more

Anxiety Defined

Anxiety can be described as a state of apprehension or uneasiness triggered by uncertainties about future events. While only a small percentage of people are affected by anxiety disorders, common anxiety affects everyone at least once during their lifetime.

Common symptoms of anxiety include:

  • Feelings of nervousness and uneasiness
  • Persistent worries and fear
  • Over-reaction to perceived threats

Insecurity can cause you to feel anxious in situations when your life, job, health, education or marriage is at risk. From time to time, Christians also suffer from the feeling of anxiety, even when they are doing the Lord’s work. Anxiety can be controlled in the realm of the Spirit. Read more

Patience in Marriage for More Peace

Let Patience Bring Peace to Your Marriage

Your marriage is beautifully unique. You possess some attributes that are not found in your spouse. Likewise, your spouse …

Arresting the Spirit of Jealousy Among Your Congregation

As disappointing as it may sound, jealousy exists among some congregations. The factors that lead to jealousy are somewhat …

Destroying the Spirit of Anger in Your Marriage

Does your spouse make a big deal out of simple mistakes, jokes and/or comments? If your answer is yes, it could mean he or …